Betrayal and forgiveness do not sound as if they belong in the same sentence but they do. The process from betrayal to forgiveness takes time and is difficult, but, that is why there is a reward in the end. Forgiveness does not mean the person who had done wrong is pardoned; it means you accept what happened, keep it in past where it belongs; you no longer feel anger, hate, bitterness, and resentment. The reward is emotional freedom because you gain happiness and inner peace - a rational calmness to approach life challenges - you found the strength from within to help you recover from pain and torment. You become the leader of yourself, not others in charge of you. This helps you to feel good about yourself (self-esteem). The way you feel about yourself has a direct impact upon the decisions you make and how you interact with people.  CNN needs a regular topic about forgiveness, helping people to talk and write in about their personal trauma, where something went wrong and how they are not able to cope, needing a new perspective and alternative. Please, give me an opportunity to discuss the broad topic. I am motivating and easy to talk with and help others solve and deal with their problems, because they trust me. I have successfully experienced the difficult yet rewarding process of forgiveness. My extensive history ranges from forgiving myself for making wrong decisions; family for abandonment; x husbands pretending who they are, when they were criminals and cheaters.