Sunday, September 2, 2012

Resume scanning technology causes lack of integrity because job seekers must concoct resumes based upon required key words, not integrity and work ethic. Online software scans resumes for specific “key words” determining if the applicant is worthy. Key words vary with companies, category, and position title and job description. Not all job search web sites are honest because they do not advertise open positions, thus, submitting an application for a position no longer available. Gone are the days of going to businesses demonstrating initiative and perseverance. Gone are the days of initial introduction with eye contact, hand shake and face-to-face meeting. Today told to apply online. This is agonizing and soul destroying for those of us with ethics, integrity and skills, but miss opportunities to those who worked the systems or know someone within. Is the cost of the new technology cost effective, more productive, and more profitable to the company using the new software recruitment process or is it more profitable to the software development company? Are new staff proving work ethic, integrity; proving to be more productive and valuable earning wages doing more than what they were hired to do?  

Betrayal and forgiveness do not sound as if they belong in the same sentence but they do. The process from betrayal to forgiveness takes time and is difficult, but, that is why there is a reward in the end. Forgiveness does not mean the person who had done wrong is pardoned; it means you accept what happened, keep it in past where it belongs; you no longer feel anger, hate, bitterness, and resentment. The reward is emotional freedom because you gain happiness and inner peace - a rational calmness to approach life challenges - you found the strength from within to help you recover from pain and torment. You become the leader of yourself, not others in charge of you. This helps you to feel good about yourself (self-esteem). The way you feel about yourself has a direct impact upon the decisions you make and how you interact with people.  CNN needs a regular topic about forgiveness, helping people to talk and write in about their personal trauma, where something went wrong and how they are not able to cope, needing a new perspective and alternative. Please, give me an opportunity to discuss the broad topic. I am motivating and easy to talk with and help others solve and deal with their problems, because they trust me. I have successfully experienced the difficult yet rewarding process of forgiveness. My extensive history ranges from forgiving myself for making wrong decisions; family for abandonment; x husbands pretending who they are, when they were criminals and cheaters.
Mind and Body

Yes, it is all personal perception... which is impacted, in my opinion, upon the existance of emotions. Emotions set us apart from being purely rational and logical thinking. Emotions have a way of weaving its way into the thought process which has an influence about how one feels about one self. This emotional perception of one's self influenced with emotions is also impacted with external influences upon emotions.. such as body image. The media and the social system, which includes magazine, movies and public figures has an influence how one views what is acceptable and what is not.

Saturday, September 1, 2012

Think about the circumstances and events that have happened to you which creates internal frustration and anxiety and annoyance with someone, but, ultimately the person it is causing harm to is yourself.
Why is it best to accept?
When is it best to pardon?
And, why is it best to forgive?

Wednesday, August 29, 2012

Forgiveness and Social Media

What kind of Social Media experiences have you had?

As for Social Media it can destructive because people --- particularly the youth --- live on the darn thing which exposes them in ways that end up hurting them emotionally. The competition within each other and the concept of popularity has caused a competition that yields emotional distress.
Private lives do not belong on public pages. But, they have fallen for it and they are damaged from it.

As for LinkedIn, this will make you laugh... I had a guy approach me for a date.
My initial reaction and reply in a reply email to him was questioning the use of LinkedIn as a business local or a dating site.
But, I realized my reaction was too negative, particularly living in the same town, so I deleted my comment.
So, I replied saying we can meet, suggesting we meet during Happy Hour where I bring a girlfriend and he brings a guy.
He replied, sounds like a good idea.
After that I received a number of emails from him in one day and then the following days wanting to meet soon and wanting to talk, where he apologized for being so impatient.
He gave me his phone number.
I did not call him, but, finally, I gave him my phone number.
Finally, we spoke, because I figured what harm can that do.
We spoke and then we met for Happy Hour that Monday.
During Happy Hour turns out his friend contacted him and he could not make it, yet my girlfriend was there. Plus, he was on his stupid cell phone texing for the first hour plus. Fine, I am not insecure.
We all chatted for a little while. She then left, leaving me with - him.
He and I talked for another hour then he walked me to my car.
While crossing the street he held my hand.
Hmmmm? I thought. I commented, "You are holding my hand" (as if I was telling him something he did not know.).
Then, we arrive at my car.
He puts both of his arms around me and brings me close to him .... I know a kiss is on the way .... slowly I turn my head where he does not kiss me the way he intended.
Not remembering what I said to him he responded, "I suppose no kissing on the first date".
Soft spoken I said, I did not know this was a date.
His comment which followed made it clear to me what his agenda was.
He said, "Well, get ready because the next time there will be lots of kissing".
This time, I was silent. Rarely am I at a loss for words; although, I had lots of thoughts in my mind, which included...
what made him think there will be a next time and what kind of situation will we be in that will allow for lots of kissing?
We said good night.

Naturally, I hardly heard from him at all since then and no second "date".
I went to his LinkedIn page out of curiosity to see the people he connects with... they were women.
Illustrating to me that he is using LinkedIn as his own dating site.
Bringing me to wonder, how many females must fall for his act?
Clearly, asking me on a "second date" would not be good use of his time for him to act upon his agenda, for clearly there are other prospects out there yielding the type of date he wants, fulfilling his agenda.

Tuesday, August 28, 2012


First.... stop feeling sorry and angry with yourself for what you did and did not do. That attitude and approach will prevent you from changing your life for the better because you will feel you can't and feel you do not deserve. How you feel about you has a direct impact upon the decisions you make, the way you go about life. Forgiveness is the key.